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saco-indonesia.com, Alhamdulillah, beberapa jam yang lalu, pesawat yang saya tumpangi mendarat dengan mulus di landasan pacu Bandara Sultan Thaha (Suha). Tak ada guncangan. Padahal, ketika menjejakkan kaki ke tangga, turun dari pesawat di sambut rintik – rintik hujan. Payung pun tak urung dikenakan.
Alhamdulillah, di dalam pesawat itu, di lajur sebelah, tepatnya seberang bangku saya, seorang penumpang terus-menerus menghitung tasbih melingkari jarinya. Khusyu’ berdzikir. Adem mata ini memandangnya. Walau banyak pemandangan lain, rasanya magnet itu begitu sayang untuk dilewatkan. Menambah ingat Allah akan nikmatNya.
Alhamdulillah juga, di dalam perjalanan atas itu, tak kuasa kedua mata ini terpejam menahan penat jiwa. Anugerah yang tak tertahankan, dimana banyak juga penumpang lain terkulai menahan sebagian derita perjalanan ini: capek dan kantuk.
Berapa seringkah kita bersyukur kepada Allah atas nikmat yang diberikan kepada kita per harinya?
Bagi yang rajin akan berada di angka 165 kali atau lebih. Dengan catatan rajin berdzikir sehabis sholat wajib dengan membaca tahmid - Alhamdulillah 33 kali, selain tasbih dan takbir. Itu pun (kebanyakan) tanpa penghayatan karena sudah terbiasa sama sekali. Tapi, Alhamdulillah masih mending daripada yang hanya sambil lalu saja.
Ibn Athaillah dalam kitabnya - Al-Hikam - mendefinisikan syukur adalah sarana untuk memanfaatkan dan memelihara karunia-Nya. Hati yang bersyukur memperkuat dan memantapkan kebaikan yang ada. Orang awam mungkin hanya bersyukur saat mendapatkan kesenangan materi saja. Tetapi, orang yang dekat dengan Allah menyadari semua yang terjadi di dunia, baik itu nikmat atau musibah sekalipun akan senantiasa disyukuri. Siapa tidak mensyukuri nikmat, berarti menginginkan hilangnya. Dan siapa mensyukurinya, berarti telah secara kuat mengikatnya.
Allah Ta`ala berfirman : Maka makanlah yang halal lagi baik dari rizki yang telah diberikan Allah kepadamu dan syukurilah nikmat Allah, jika kamu hanya kepada-Nya saja menyembah. (Q.S An- Nahl  : 114)
Bersyukur merupakan ibadah paling mudah, tetapi sangat sedikit orang yang menyadari dan melakukannya. Hanya hamba yang benar-benar beriman yang bisa mensyukuri setiap nikmat dan rizki yang telah Allah berikan. Sekecil apapun itu, jika kita bersyukur maka nilainya akan tinggi di mata Allah Ta`ala. Kita bisa menghirup udara segar, tangan kita bergerak melakukan apa saja yang kita mau, mata kita bisa melihat dengan jelas, kaki kita bisa berjalan dan tubuh kita tegap tanpa takut terjatuh, perut kita bisa mencerna makanan dengan tidak memuntahkannya, telinga kita masih bisa mendengar, itu semua nikmat dari Allah.
AllahTa’ala berfirman: Dan jika kamu menghitung-hitung nikmat Allah, niscaya kamu tak dapat menentukan jumlahnya. Sesungguhnya Allah benar-benar Maha Pengampun lagi Maha Penyayang. (An-Nahl 18)
Hati yang selalu ikhlas, ridla dengan takdir-Nya, lisan yang selalu ringan mengucap syukur dan berakhlaqul karimah terhadap sesama manusia merupakan bentuk nyata dari mensyukuri nikmat-nikmat Allah. Orang yang senantiasa bersyukur kepada Allah, qana’ah, selalu mengambil hikmah terhadap segala permasalahan, maka hidupnya akan tentram, pikirannya tidak cemas, hatinya selalu bersih dari kesombongan dan kekufuran. Tetapi sebaliknya, orang yang tidak mau dan lupa bersyukur maka Allah akan mencabut nikmat yang telah diberikan-Nya dan mengganti dengan siksa yang pedih. Naudzubillahi min dzalik.
Janji Allah tak akan luput seperti pada surat Q.S Ibrahim  : 7, Dan (ingatlah juga), tatkala Tuhanmu memaklumkan; “Sesungguhnya jika kamu bersyukur, pasti kami akan menambah (nikmat) kepadamu, dan jika kamu mengingkari (nikmat- Ku), Maka Sesungguhnya azab-Ku sangat pedih”.
Oleh karenanya, perlu disadari jika kita bersyukur maka keimanan kita bertambah, ilmu kita bertambah, harta kita bertambah, amal kita bertambah. Bersyukur bukanlah hal sulit. Bersyukur bukanlah hal remeh yang mesti kita tinggalkan. Tapi sebaliknya harus kita tingkatkan, walau banyak yang lupa meninggalkannya. Karenanya ingatlah: “Fabiayyi Aalaa’i Robbikumaa Tukadz-dzibaan - Maka nikmat Tuhan kamu yang manakah yang (bisa) kamu dustakan?”
Even as a high school student, Dave Goldberg was urging female classmates to speak up. As a young dot-com executive, he had one girlfriend after another, but fell hard for a driven friend named Sheryl Sandberg, pining after her for years. After they wed, Mr. Goldberg pushed her to negotiate hard for high compensation and arranged his schedule so that he could be home with their children when she was traveling for work.
Mr. Goldberg, who died unexpectedly on Friday, was a genial, 47-year-old Silicon Valley entrepreneur who built his latest company, SurveyMonkey, from a modest enterprise to one recently valued by investors at $2 billion. But he was also perhaps the signature male feminist of his era: the first major chief executive in memory to spur his wife to become as successful in business as he was, and an essential figure in “Lean In,” Ms. Sandberg’s blockbuster guide to female achievement.
Over the weekend, even strangers were shocked at his death, both because of his relatively young age and because they knew of him as the living, breathing, car-pooling center of a new philosophy of two-career marriage.
“They were very much the role models for what this next generation wants to grapple with,” said Debora L. Spar, the president of Barnard College. In a 2011 commencement speech there, Ms. Sandberg told the graduates that whom they married would be their most important career decision.
In the play “The Heidi Chronicles,” revived on Broadway this spring, a male character who is the founder of a media company says that “I don’t want to come home to an A-plus,” explaining that his ambitions require him to marry an unthreatening helpmeet. Mr. Goldberg grew up to hold the opposite view, starting with his upbringing in progressive Minneapolis circles where “there was woman power in every aspect of our lives,” Jeffrey Dachis, a childhood friend, said in an interview.
The Goldberg parents read “The Feminine Mystique” together — in fact, Mr. Goldberg’s father introduced it to his wife, according to Ms. Sandberg’s book. In 1976, Paula Goldberg helped found a nonprofit to aid children with disabilities. Her husband, Mel, a law professor who taught at night, made the family breakfast at home.
Later, when Dave Goldberg was in high school and his prom date, Jill Chessen, stayed silent in a politics class, he chastised her afterward. He said, “You need to speak up,” Ms. Chessen recalled in an interview. “They need to hear your voice.”
Years later, when Karin Gilford, an early employee at Launch Media, Mr. Goldberg’s digital music company, became a mother, he knew exactly what to do. He kept giving her challenging assignments, she recalled, but also let her work from home one day a week. After Yahoo acquired Launch, Mr. Goldberg became known for distributing roses to all the women in the office on Valentine’s Day.
Ms. Sandberg, who often describes herself as bossy-in-a-good-way, enchanted him when they became friendly in the mid-1990s. He “was smitten with her,” Ms. Chessen remembered. Ms. Sandberg was dating someone else, but Mr. Goldberg still hung around, even helping her and her then-boyfriend move, recalled Bob Roback, a friend and co-founder of Launch. When they finally married in 2004, friends remember thinking how similar the two were, and that the qualities that might have made Ms. Sandberg intimidating to some men drew Mr. Goldberg to her even more.
Over the next decade, Mr. Goldberg and Ms. Sandberg pioneered new ways of capturing information online, had a son and then a daughter, became immensely wealthy, and hashed out their who-does-what-in-this-marriage issues. Mr. Goldberg’s commute from the Bay Area to Los Angeles became a strain, so he relocated, later joking that he “lost the coin flip” of where they would live. He paid the bills, she planned the birthday parties, and both often left their offices at 5:30 so they could eat dinner with their children before resuming work afterward.
Friends in Silicon Valley say they were careful to conduct their careers separately, politely refusing when outsiders would ask one about the other’s work: Ms. Sandberg’s role building Facebook into an information and advertising powerhouse, and Mr. Goldberg at SurveyMonkey, which made polling faster and cheaper. But privately, their work was intertwined. He often began statements to his team with the phrase “Well, Sheryl said” sharing her business advice. He counseled her, too, starting with her salary negotiations with Mark Zuckerberg.
“I wanted Mark to really feel he stretched to get Sheryl, because she was worth it,” Mr. Goldberg explained in a 2013 “60 Minutes” interview, his Minnesota accent and his smile intact as he offered a rare peek of the intersection of marriage and money at the top of corporate life.
While his wife grew increasingly outspoken about women’s advancement, Mr. Goldberg quietly advised the men in the office on family and partnership matters, an associate said. Six out of 16 members of SurveyMonkey’s management team are female, an almost unheard-of ratio among Silicon Valley “unicorns,” or companies valued at over $1 billion.
When Mellody Hobson, a friend and finance executive, wrote a chapter of “Lean In” about women of color for the college edition of the book, Mr. Goldberg gave her feedback on the draft, a clue to his deep involvement. He joked with Ms. Hobson that she was too long-winded, like Ms. Sandberg, but aside from that, he said he loved the chapter, she said in an interview.
By then, Mr. Goldberg was a figure of fascination who inspired a “where can I get one of those?” reaction among many of the women who had read the best seller “Lean In.” Some lamented that Ms. Sandberg’s advice hinged too much on marrying a Dave Goldberg, who was humble enough to plan around his wife, attentive enough to worry about which shoes his young daughter would wear, and rich enough to help pay for the help that made the family’s balancing act manageable.
Now that he is gone, and Ms. Sandberg goes from being half of a celebrated partnership to perhaps the business world’s most prominent single mother, the pages of “Lean In” carry a new sting of loss.
“We are never at 50-50 at any given moment — perfect equality is hard to define or sustain — but we allow the pendulum to swing back and forth between us,” she wrote in 2013, adding that they were looking forward to raising teenagers together.
“Fortunately, I have Dave to figure it out with me,” she wrote.